An associate of mine told me some bullshit about how I would NEVER find a man because I am not the type of woman who needs to be helped. He stated that Black men want women that they feel they can help in some way. Whether it is financially, around the house with handy work, counseling and giving advice, sexual needs or even with their kids…it makes them feel like more of a man to know that they are needed. He said that successful Black women or women on a mission to become successful and independent cannot be helped and therefore we should get prepared to either go through life constantly breaking up and ending relationships, or…alone…..And the last thing he said was…..that’s why so many Black men date and marry White women….because White women know how to let a man be the man. Whether they can buy it, fix it, satisfy it, open it, or do it themselves, they offer their man enough opportunity to do things for them…to help them! I am still in shock!