Ok I get it…children are made up from characteristics of both parents, with some genes being more dominant than others. But how do you deal when your child has so many of the main characteristics of your ex that made you walk away from their father in the first place? Well I am learning as I go. With my oldest child, a girl now 23, she was all me with a sprinkle of dad. I was always two steps ahead of her and that attitude was nothing for an old pro like me to handle. But my oldest boy, a 17 year old, is so fucking nonchalant that it’s down right irritating. He is so inconsiderate with time when he has no personal interest in it. Everything I tried to instill in him just went through him like water through a strainer. And he always has some elaborate excuse. But he can’t help it, he gets it from his dad. I have to end arguments and go to my room because it feels like deja vu. And with my ex it was simple, I knew I had to walk away because things wouldn’t change. But this is my child and I can’t give up on him because I want him to succeed.