Sometimes people ask for things that they don’t really know about. For instance when women who have never had a man that tells them everything ask for one, and then they get on, and then they don’t want to talk to him.
This is a post about relationships, and believe you me, Nigga J knows a lot about them.
So the issues in all of them is communication. The way you say shit, the way I hear shit and vice versa. You take things personally, I don’t take them personally enough. Things are taken out of context, we use the wrong words, the context is not taken into consideration. I don’t get what you’re saying, so I’m an idiot and you get to feel emotionally superior.
Etc, etc, we’ve all been there. Men and women are different. People are different, they think in all kinds of ways that are sometimes very subtle and sometimes very pronounced, but when people come together to make some kind of couple, then things get double hard because you have all different kinds of interference, such as gender, societal roles, along with the normal things that come in life. So how do you fix this?
I suggest you do it with logic. But are most people logical? No, men are about the bottom line and solutions, women are more about context and the happenings. Can we meet in the middle?
I believe we can, but the the problems that come with that are who is going to maintain the balance of power? Women want the relationship to be emotional, men want to to be logical. It should contain elements of both. no man or woman should have to kiss another’s ass to be with someone else. And if you want it to work you have to talk about everything, good or bad. It may not be something you want to hear, but its what the other person thinks and what makes them tick.
They may say something you think is completely fucked up, but as long as its not meant to be mean, it should be something that has to do with your emotional mind and your logical emotion.
Chicks have to calm down their frazzled ass dizzy emotions, and dudes have to pump up their emotional intelligence! Then the two doofy parties can get down to the business of trying to relate to one another. Which is hard enough as it is.
But if she looked like this, its easier to get motivated: